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I just got through reading Erica Jong’s new book, "Seducing the Demon." I wish I hadn’t finished it. I wish I hadn’t finished it because now I’m going to miss it. I’m going to miss reading it and thinking, "ME TOO!" As if a lowly one-small-book writer like myself can even begin to compare myself to the likes of what she wrote in this book.

I feel like I’ve been schooled by the older, feminist, mentor writer I always wished I had and never knew I really craved until I picked this book up from the library after hearing her speak on my NECN morning show. I don’t particularly remember what she said in that interview, but I added it to my Boston Public Library "wish list" on line during the interview.

I’ve never read another Jong book. I’m the one feminist in the world to have never read "Fear of Flying" and in fact, I can’t even give you a brief idea of what it’s about. I barely know Jong beyond her name.

Being a library book, I couldn’t turn down the pages of my favorite passages or highlight the bits of text that called to me most. And considering that I read the book over the past three weeks or so (it’s soooo overdue) while sitting in a parking lot eating my lunch… laying in bed after two prescription sleeping pills waiting for night to come and/or sitting on the end of my couch while endless reality tv shows played in the background… I can’t even transcribe any of those passages for you.

But what I took away from it is… It’s ok to take a long time to write another book. It’s ok to take big leaps of faith… it’s ok to live, to write, to do things, to not write, to walk the dogs, to rail against George Bush and his misguided policies on everything, to have a family, to have a good dinner and to travel to Italy.

I’d like to go to Italy.

ps. Check out her tips for writers I just discovered. Love me some internet.

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Well, I know what I’ll be doing now June 11! Pink Ink‘s panel discussion, "Writer’s Online" features not only my best friend Toni Amato, but that cutie-patootie Timothy State and the cupcake diva herself, Rachel Kramer Bussell.

Plus you know. Writing online is sort of a topic near and dear to my heart! I’m always curious as to how other people handle that fine line between putting yourself out there and retaining enough of your own private world to make through the world.

For the past year… year and a half…. oh. Ok. Let’s be HONEST here people. For probably the last two years, I’ve been dealing with some serious writer’s block.

(tangent: hell, forget writer’s block. In the last two years, my partner and I have dealt with some hardcore un/under-employment, the craptascular Bush economy, her getting fired, firing herself and generally going through something like four health plans in the last two years. Sometimes writer’s block is just. You know. LIFE. But no one every seems to say that do they? No one says, "You know, I’m kind of not writing because I’m freaking out over how to make this month’s mortgage OR I’m going to pick up a free vacuum cleaner from a neighbor because ours is dead and we can’t afford a new one OR my mother-in-law just got diagnosed with lung cancer after having her bladder removed because of bladder cancer. No. We never say that. We just say we’ve got writer’s block.)

Over the past two years, I’d pretend to write. Periodically throw myself back into writing. Set myself, goals, deadlines, and reward myself with the periodical Hershey’s caramel kiss.

Really. Nothing worked.

I’ve been feeling lately as if I’m coming back around a bit. Feeling the movement back in my fingers. Staying up later and writing more. It’s cool. I’m trying to take it easy on myself so I don’t lose it again. But it’s cool.

And today, I had the hugest boost. I literally stumbled upon this book review of "Dish It Up Baby" that was written….

:::whips out calculator::::

three months ago on a book that’s now two years old and wow. Wow did he get that book in every way that I ever wanted anyone to get it. To really get it. I’ve been beating myself up since the thing came out about how this part sucked and that part sucked and what a hack writer I am.

And then this complete stranger comes along and totally gets it.

Validation is a wonderful thing.

(so is being able to pay the mortgage. seriously. and dual direct-deposits. i’m just sayin.)